This post is sponsored by Pal. Despite that, all of my opinions are my own and I have tried the app myself in order to write an honest review on it.
I used to take making friends for granted. In a nursery or on the playground you see kids meet new friends all the time. There is no awkwardness, it’s enough to go on a slide together a couple of times or lend another child a toy and BAM the next thing you know the kids are planning playdates and crying if they don’t see each other for too long. And then at some point in our lives, it becomes more difficult. We stop impressing each other with our toys and a simple ‘Hello, what’s your name?’ has become a situation people would rather run away from. God forbid, we get stuck in a place filled with people when we don’t know anyone – the worst nightmare for someone with social anxiety.
And while I particularly enjoy binge-watching and sitting in bed all day, even I get the urge to go out every now and then. The only problem I very often face is lack of people to go out with. But making friends sounds really daunting so why not just give up and go back to bed? Because it’s springtime and this season means that we should all be blossoming with nature. So let’s kickstart this by making friends in an easy(er) way.
Boost your self-confidence
I know, that’s not exactly the easiest start. But once you get over that hurdle, everything else will be so much easier. Self-confidence is a funny thing – you can be the most confident person in the world and still have days (or weeks) when you don’t feel it at all. With a hand on my heart I can say that I “started from the bottom, now I’m here”. My self-confidence was at absolute zero. Nada. Null. And it wasn’t until I moved out and had to live without anyone’s help that it started getting better. Step by step, by doing all the things that made me feel uncomfortable like calling the doctors or signing up to the gym, I figured out I may have been getting a hang of things. I tried standing in front of a mirror and giving myself pep talks but it made me feel a bit silly. If it works for you, that’s absolutely fantastic, but if it doesn’t just know it’s not a sign that you’re a lost cause. The best way to feel more confident is to get out of your comfort zone. And remember – little steps will get you there.
Get out of the house more
And I don’t mean you have to go “out out” to meet other people. I tried it before and honestly, it’s a horrible feeling when you’re standing on your own sipping on g&t whilst everyone else is with someone else. Plus, 99% of “friendships” you form on a night out most of the time don’t last longer than until the next morning. A great way to meet new people is to join interest groups. What’s a better way to find like-minded people than sharing a hobby? The possibilities range from book and baking clubs through There are currently so many opportunities out there so go ahead and sign yourself up for one!
Pal to the rescue
If joining clubs and interest groups is not really your thing, and I don’t blame you because personally, I can’t promise anyone I’ll be turning up somewhere regularly, then I’d highly recommend checking Pal. Pal is a new social app which lets you find people to go out with. Fancy going to the cinema but don’t have anyone to go with? Put a request on Pal and find other people in a similar situation. It applies to literally any situation you can think about. Pal offers you the opportunity to find people you can go shopping with, meet for a coffee or even play video games. You can choose whether you’re going solo, looking for something interesting for couples or with a group of friends – there’s everything for every occasion! I have been scrolling through the feed checking what other people are posting for the past two weeks and the choice of activities is endless. And guess what? I have found so many other girls to have coffee or lunch with!
In a world where loads of people turn to mobile apps or dating sites to find true love, why not use similar apps in order to make some friends?
Until next time xx
How do you make friends?