At least once I week I get incredibly surprised by the fact that you can offend people by everything nowadays. Literally everything. Not so much offline as online, but the impact of this trend is magnificent. In the world that screams DIVERSITY everywhere and promotes being open-minded, people seem to be doing the exact opposite. It looks like to promote diversity we need to be as close-minded as possible. Is that the direction we’re heading towards now – everyone being angry at others for absolutely everything they do and say?
Everyone is entitled to have an opinion and make choices. We are fortunate enough to live in the world with many opportunities. We can choose to live anywhere in the world, eat cuisine from a different country for dinner every night for at least two weeks and believe in whatever we want to believe. In theory, it sounds perfect. In practice? Not so much. Sure, it’s great to have so many options and such freedom. What’s not so cool is being judged for everything you do.
People love to categorise. We categorise your socks, documents, wardrobe and, in many cases, other people. We categorise before we can even think about it. Ironing your bed sheets? You have too much time on your hands. Working part-time? What a lazy person. Slept with too many men? A prostitute. Waiting for the one? Probably something wrong with her. Constantly watching what she/he eats? Has an eating disorder. Happily eating fast food and chocolate? Fat and irresponsible, because you could just look after yourself. It’s unfortunately in human nature. But that’s not the problem – it’s how we act upon it that’s the problem.
It’s like no one can really accept that no two people are the same. That rarely ever we know the whole story about one human being and their life. There is no actual form you’re supposed to fit in the society but if you don’t fit in it, then good luck to you because you’ll be crucified on the Internet. Have fun trying to find a way to survive because apparently no matter how you shift no one can fit in. But let’s bash each other on Twitter for this inability, shall we?
I cannot count the times I have deleted a great tweet or description on Instagram that I was so proud of because I got scared of being judged. What if I revealed too much of my life motto or my opinion on a certain topic? What if I would be the next person to be talked about simply because I don’t like to eat cheese? Or I dared to polish my shoes? I wish I could go back in time and tell myself that I don’t need to feel bad about my life. And that I don’t need to pretend to be someone I’m not just to please people I will never see in real life anyway. Because right now, I’m done apologising for everything.
THERE IS NO PLEASING OTHER PEOPLE.
It’s impossible.
So I’m sorry if my life offends you. Oh no, wait, I’m not really sorry. It’s my life. And I am going to live it the way I want to because I’m the one who’s making the decisions. So do you in your life. Let’s stop judging each other and just live our happy lives, shall we?
I have a proposition for everyone who has a problem with other’s opinions and life choices – get over it. Stop pushing your views onto others. It’s perfectly fine to stick to your views, more than that, to even share them and have a nice discussion with others about them. But it’s not okay to slag people off for who they are. Let’s be more open-minded as a society and accept that there is a place for everyone in here. Then the world will become a place where we do not have to feel constantly on edge and overthink what are the ‘correct’ things to say. There’s too much to worry about already anyway.
Until next time xx
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Anu says
May 12, 2018 at 11:48 pmI’ve been thinking about this a lot for the past few months or so! It feels as though someone could tweet “I love ketchup” and someone gets offended by that. It’s getting sort of ridiculous which is why every time there’s any kind of drama on Twitter etc I don’t open the app that day at all! I mean sometimes people say/tweet stupid things but I usually just ignore it, we’re all humans and make mistakes but some people can’t seem to let the smallest things go xx
Anu | Based On blog
Julia says
May 22, 2018 at 8:21 pmI know right! I don’t like to get involved in any drama either, I just scroll through puppy photos on Twitter or something and avoid drama at all cost haha
Lily says
March 30, 2018 at 10:31 pmSuch a true post. I’ve learnt recently that I should stop living my life for other people, and instead do things for myself. I will never be able to please everyone, so I should just aim to please myself 🙂
Julia says
April 1, 2018 at 10:41 amAnd you’ll start living your best life if you just live for yourself <3
Francesca says
March 29, 2018 at 12:25 pmI totally agree with this post! what’s the point of having the ability to speak your mind if you just receive negativity from others, it’s impossible not to offend at least one person everytime you say something online or in real-life! The world’s gone mad haha x
Francesca
Julia says
April 1, 2018 at 10:40 amExactly! We don’t have to agree with each other all the time but at least let others have their opinion.
andthenzen ✨ says
March 26, 2018 at 2:46 pmYou’ve reminded me that I need to pick up the new Blogosphere Magazine ASAP! 🙊 I’m personally still in the process of learning to just live, not for others, but for myself. I try to please other people so much, but I am beginning to learn that I am my own number one priority and I come first! 🖤
Julia says
March 26, 2018 at 4:25 pmThe new magazine is fab! I think most people are still in the process of learning to put themselves first. But it’s a goal I aspire to achieve and I wish you the same xx
Alice says
March 21, 2018 at 1:17 pmI really enjoyed reading this post and a lot of it rings so true. I do wish people would just let things be what they are and let people be who they are without constantly having to question and judge everything. You cannot please everyone and sometimes it seems like you really can’t please ANYONE, it’s important just to stick with what you know and who you are and ride with it as your own happiness is the most important at the end of the day!
Alice Xx
Julia says
March 24, 2018 at 2:30 pmI know right! I make my choices, you make yours and no one needs to judge. So many people just like to push their opinions on others.
Alice says
March 20, 2018 at 6:37 pmI loved reading this! It’s so well written. It’s so true I didn’t even realise how much we categorise things down to the minor little details and characteristics we have. One thing I’ve definitely learnt is to be unapologetically who you are, you’ll never be happy otherwise just trying to keep up with what other people want you to be. Unfortunately I always end up trying to be a people pleaser but it’s just not possible to please everyone! x
Alice | http://www.accordingtoalicex.com
Julia says
March 20, 2018 at 9:05 pmI’m still learning how to put myself first and do whatever I want because it’s my life. I used to care a lot more about what others thought of me but as I’m getting older it’s getting easier to just be myself. At least most of the time 😀