When I was little I used to think that New Year’s Eve was one of the most magical nights of the year. To me, changing the number in a year in my school notebook sounded like we were literally jumping into a different eternity. Starting a new life. Getting new chances. Having new opportunities. As I’m growing older, this magic is slowly disappearing (especially since staying up late is a norm now and not being in bed by midnight doesn’t excite me that much anymore). I still tend to think about what I want to achieve within the next 365 days. Very often my New Year’s resolutions would be forgotten about by February and then by December I would be disappointed in myself and determined to make it work the next year. But now I’ve learnt my lesson – I know how to set New Year’s resolutions and stick to them for the whole year (or most of it, nobody’s perfect).
Little tip: I’ve already seen some people shaming other people online for setting New Year’s resolutions. How about we let people set whatever goals they want whenever they want to? Whether it’s old but gold ‘New year, new me’ thing or just any goal, small or big – let’s support one another instead of tearing others down before their resolutions can even start.
Put a lot of thought into it
If you have a moment before New Year’s Eve, sit down. Think about the past year – what you have learnt and what you gained from it. Now think about the future and consider what you’d like to achieve by this time next year. Maybe you feel like something was missing this year – not enough time with family, not enough money saved, not enough ‘me’ time? Think about what could make you happier in the year coming. Maybe you always wanted to pick up a new hobby. Or you want to move out in the near future. Or get a pet. If you listen to your own body and mind, you’ll come up with an idea.
Let’s be honest. We’re so busy with our lives that most likely we won’t be able to stick to 5 New Year’s resolutions and they will be put aside very quickly until ‘tomorrow’. Then that ‘tomorrow’ becomes never and we get back to the beginning. Don’t pick too many resolutions. For now, focus on one. Life will throw many obstacles at you to overcome with that one resolution anyway and you’ll need all your strength to keep going. Completing one resolution is so much more realistic (and not any less satisfying) than multiple.
What this year has taught me is how important it is to have not only a long-term goal but to plan short-term goals that can get you there. Now that you have your New Year’s resolution (your long-term goal) to complete by the end of December next year, think about how you can get there. If you want to move out, then you’ll most likely have to save money – set an amount of money you’d want to put aside for each month. If you want to quit smoking, you’ll have to take certain steps to get there, like replacing cigarettes with chewing gums, reducing the amount of cigarettes you smoke each week etc. Big, long-term goals can scare anyone and they very often seem like you’ll never be able to get there. Through setting little goals, your resolution will be much more within your reach.
Don’t be too hard on yourself
Some New Year’s resolutions are just not meant to last. Sometimes they can evolve into something better. Don’t ever think of that as a failure. And don’t ever let anyone tell you that! Other people will always have their opinions about absolutely everything and everyone is always more willing to criticise someone else but themselves. But know your value. If it didn’t work out in the end – that’s fine, you can adjust your goal and start again either in next January or just next week. Remember that it’s not always the end result that counts – it’s the effort you put in to make it work. You tried so hard and no one will ever take that away. So keep going. It’s not a failure unless you lose hope and give up on everything.
I wish you all good luck with your New Year’s resolutions!
Until next time xx
What are your New Year’s resolutions?
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